October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss (PAIL) Awareness Month, with the 15th being the official day. A day to recognise, acknowledge and honour the estimated one in four pregnancies that end in miscarriage in Australia each year, and approximately 3,000 babies stillborn or die in the first 28 days after birth.
The Sands vision is that all bereaved parents across Queensland have the opportunity to access support services and care they need at the time of the death of their baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, newborn death or medical termination. You can help by joining with us to raise awareness and create conversations. Let other bereaved parents know they are not alone and help them find a place of support.
When we fell pregnant with Harvey we were excited to expand our family and give our son Harrison the little brother or sister we so desperately wanted, creating a lifetime of memories with our family of four.
The first Sands Queensland meeting took place on the 9th of November 1983, after a bereaved mother, Judy Clarkson, saw a need for support services after the stillbirth of her own daughter Janette.Read More »
Judy Clarkson, the first Sands Queensland President, established Sands Queensland after she found little support to help her understand the intensity and duration of her grief following the loss of her daughter Janette in March 1983. Janette was stillborn at 40 weeks after what was a perfect pregnancy.Read More »
Guest post by Tina Thurtel, Sands Queensland Committee President
My first Mother’s Day was brutal after my baby, Willow, died. My partner was thoughtful enough to include Willow’s name on my card. It was bittersweet. I felt like crying all day. Mother’s Day was no longer a happy day for me, it was a harsh reminder of all that I had lost. I couldn’t see that it was ever going to get any better.
The Sands Queensland Management Committee is comprised of volunteers who dedicate their time and skills to help steer Sands in it’s mission to promote and facilitate quality support and care systems for the parents and families of babies who have died during pregnancy, at birth or soon after.
We welcome and thank you to the new Committee for 2018 and we look forward to a productive year.Read More »
It’s another sleepless night. My body is heavy and tired but I always fight the urge to close my eyes for fear of the nightmares. Waking up to the realisation I have to face it again, live it again, and paint on that brave face again.Read More »
I used to feel that my grief and how I dealt with it wasn’t validated, was too ‘over the top’. I mean we were only 15 weeks. He wasn’t a ‘real’ baby, a legal baby. Small enough to hold him in the palm of a hand, but we could still count 10 little fingers and 10 little toes. I’ve since come to realise it doesn’t matter. 15 weeks or 40 weeks, the outcome is the same…they’re gone.Read More »